“Can I give you some feedback?” Even when it’s well-intended, that sentence often lands with tension. Shoulders tighten. Attention narrows. Defences quietly come online. That reaction isn’t weakness or sensitivity. It’s human biology. Somewhere along the way, feedback  became synonymous with criticism - something delivered formally, infrequently, and often too late to be genuinely useful. And that’s a problem. Because growth doesn’t happen in annual rituals. It happens in ong