“Can I give you some feedback?” Even when it’s well-intended, that sentence often lands with tension. Shoulders tighten. Attention narrows. Defences quietly come online. That reaction isn’t weakness or sensitivity. It’s human biology. Somewhere along the way, feedback  became synonymous with criticism - something delivered formally, infrequently, and often too late to be genuinely useful. And that’s a problem. Because growth doesn’t happen in annual rituals. It happens in ong

As the year draws to a close, many people sense a shift. Something ending. Something wanting to begin. And a quiet discomfort in the space in between. I’ve written before about transition moments — the small, often invisible shifts we move through every day — and how the energy we carry from one moment into the next shapes our presence and performance. This piece stays with the in-between  itself a little longer. Because year end has a way of bringing it into focus. Change a

Why it’s normal – and why or how you don’t have to believe every thought you have. No greeting. No “thank you”. No feedback. Just a short email in response to a piece of work I had put real thought and care into. Almost immediately, my mind filled the gap. I haven’t done a good job. I’ve missed the mark. This reflects badly on me. Nothing like that had been said. And yet, the conclusion felt instant and real. This is often how taking things personally starts – not with facts,